The most interesting people are usually living nearby! I am pleased to introduce to you Julia Fetisova Haddad.
Nadiia: Do you believe there is a need for such forms of punishment as death penalty? If so, then for what deeds? If not, why?
Julia: I believe we are not Gods to decide who lives and who dies. People think that in this way they bring forth fairness but perhaps by staying alive accused get to learn their lessons. More than that, each Country holds its own understanding of who deserves death punishment and who doesn’t, it’s rather subjective. However, if people want to intentionally end their own lives due to an unbearable illness and can’t go on living like that anymore then they should have the right to do so. And it shouldn’t be considered a sin, but to be sentenced to death as a form of punishment – no.
Nadiia: Does Euthanasia (mercy-killing) deserve to exist?
Julia: Yes, I do believe it’s humane.
Nadiia: What is a sin in your point of view?
Julia: In my opinion there is no such thing as a sin.
Nadiia: If someone commits a murder? Is that a sin?
Julia: I don’t see a sin in the same way as it is commonly accepted. I.e. a sin that you have committed and need to pay for it because someone has decided that you are at fault. I believe in Karma. I believe in cause and effect and you cannot avoid that, it’s the law of the Universe.
Nadiia: If I understand you correctly, you believe that revenge will come, but from above?
Julia: Yes but perhaps not revenge as such but an opportunity to decide who you are. The actual meaning of a sin is mainly for masses in order to control them. For me the thought that we were born in sin is unacceptable. But this is me and other points of view have their right for existence. It is important to ask yourself, what helps you grow and what aids in demonstrating your best characteristics and intentions?
Nadiia: Please name one or two professions that you believe will be 100% sought-after in 10 years?
Julia: It seems to me, that people will pay more attention to their psychological, emotional and spiritual growth. I think that Psychologists, Life coaches and Spiritual leaders will be in demand more than before. This is because those values that were prioritized in the past will take a back seat in the future. I hope that we will pay more attention to how we (as a society) manage what we have. What are we focused on? Are we focused on Peace or War? Because the further we go the more Wars there are. It is easy to see that old beliefs don’t serve us anymore. I think people should understand that we don’t have to fight each other. In reality everything depends on Peace and first of all on Peace within ourselves. Without being Peaceful on the inside we cannot attain Peace in our environment. There is a need to focus on what brings us closer rather than on what pulls us apart. This is why I believe that professions such as Psychologists, Life coaches and Spiritual leaders will be in demand in the future. In any case I wish it for us.
Nadiia: What is “a real man” in your opinion?
Julia: It’s hard to say. I can describe how I see a harmonious relationship with my partner. For me the most important thing is to decide how I want to feel next to him rather than what he should be like. Every woman has her idea about relationships where she sees fulfillment. For me looks are not a priority even though a lot of people choose to focus on that, inner world attracts me more. However, I believe that with inner discipline comes physical discipline too.
My belief is that it is essential to find common ground in the belief that personal and spiritual growth is necessary. I like to be with a person who follows his heart. I get inspired my men that dedicate a lot of their time to their passion, their interests. I wouldn’t find it stimulating being with someone who follows a common path with rehearsed lines and does what is demanded of him, without creativity and self- expression.
Nadiia: As I understand, this is who Brendan is to you? What is he like in your opinion?
Julia: He is a person who is not afraid of difficulties. I really like that. In each situation instead of seeing obstacles he sees opportunities for growth. Especially in areas that relate to physical challenges. I like that he is not discouraged to try something new and is not stopping on what he has achieved, keeps moving forward. Attitude is vital. Are you focusing on negatives aspects, obstacles, reasons why you can’t do something? Or you are finding ways of doing what you want?
He is a man of Nature, Nature is constantly changing. He can watch TV shows about Nature and animals for hours with great pleasure and interest. I wouldn’t say that I share his passion for knowledge about Nature but I identify with the thirst for anything that develops character and love for life.
Nadiia: What, in your point of view, is the main difference between men and women?
Julia: Women are much more emotional than men and are more focused on relationships with men, children, people around and society. They like to talk a lot about themselves with others, like conversations, constant communication. Even problems are solved though discussions and can be created through them.
Men are not as emotional, they are more pragmatic i.e. they like to keep their problems to themselves rather than discuss them. They relax differently. Their priorities are accomplishments, a career, this is their way of expressing themselves. I wouldn’t say that they love differently but they show it differently through their actions.
Nadiia: Is a Female friendship a myth or a reality?
Julia: To me a female friendship is an irreplaceable part of my life. Without a close female friendship a lot of things about me as a person, woman and friend wouldn’t have been revealed. And by a “close friendship” I mean common interests, goals and mutual support. It is very important for me to support and accept each other as we are, inspire to be authentic and not just live up to expectations of husbands, children, parents and society. Support one another as human beings should.
Nadiia: What do you think is the main reason why women usually break up friendships?
Julia: I believe that a person is present in another’s life precisely as long as she needs to be.
For the purpose of teaching something or learning. I believe that long terms friendships are possible but on a different level, not just every-day life, discussing clothes or something of that sort. It is more on a soul level, personal compatibility. Interests aren’t even as important as personal compatibility. 
Why do they disappear from our lives? Because they have learned what they needed to learn from us and taught what they needed to teach us. No one knows everything but everyone has something to teach. I am very easy about that. Each person grows and develops in their own way and at a certain point people outgrow each other. Points of relevance cease to exist and are not visible in plain view. It is nothing to worry about, that’s life.
Nadiia: So you let go of people easily? Do you ever have a need to hold on to someone?
Julia: I let go of people I no longer grow with very easily. I feel that I cannot give anymore of myself and take anything from her.
Nadiia: So friendship for you is a “mutually profitable relationship”? Friendship can’t be just friendship?
Julia: Friendship is an energy exchange not a mutual profit. It’s a little different approach. My point of reference, especially in friendships is – What can I give of myself? What can I share with this person? But I won’t give of my energy, of myself if I feel it’s not appreciated. I don’t demand anything in return. I don’t need to think: I have given this much and she has given this much. It’s just important for me to know that my contribution is appreciated. Otherwise I don’t see the need to spend my energy. With time I have established my own criteria of where I see myself in relationships. I don’t see a need to remain where I’m spent in vain. The same goes for my friend. I wouldn’t want to hold on to a person if I see she gives her all and feels not valued. Neither I nor she will benefit from it. No one will grow that way, we will only feed each other’s’ insecurities. I see myself in harmonious relationships.
Nadiia: What is your opinion as of a woman, wife and mother about abortions? Is it a woman’s right in choosing to give birth or not? Or it is acting out of foolishness, poor judgment?
Julia: I try not to label, not to look at things as “wrong and right”. I know that many women, who choose to abort do it out of desperation, despair and I don’t have the right to judge them. I try to asess all situations neutrally. What would I do? I personally am not capable of aborting but that’s me and I have my own situation that can always change. Other people have the right to decide what they find necessary for their body and their children. I would find it hard to do. It is a soul, a person that could become just like us and experience life fully. But I also know that we are entitled to our own decisions without judgment. I’m not for it or against I just believe in cause and effect, that’s all. And that would be their causes and effects. Those are their lessons in life.
Nadiia: Where you expecting to hear a specific question that I have not yet asked?
Julia: Yes, the one you asked me when we were arranging an interview, about the priorities in my life.
Nadiia: It’s easy to fix! Let’s take 5 main aspects of your life and arrange them according to their importance to you: Children, relatives, husband, friends, self-realization…
Julia: I come first and then other components are equally important. But “me” not as an opportunity to go to SPA or something like that, not in a selfish way that always disregards needs and comfort of others. But “me” as internal work, as a responsibility for everything that happens in my life. I believe that people close to me and areas of my development will only thrive on that.
Nadiia: Thank you so much for the interesting interview, your sincerity and openness.
Julia: Thank you for your interest and an opportunity to share this with others.
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